Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Queen Latifah Speaks Out About Childhood Abuse

Lovely, talented and brave

Queen Latifah is speaking out about being a victim of sexual abuse when she was a child.

The Sun is reporting:

The rapper-turned-actress says a teenage babysitter preyed upon her, leaving her unable to form relationships as an adult.

Latifah, 39, told Essence magazine: "He violated me.

"I never told anybody. I just buried it as deeply as I could and kept people at an arms length. I never really let a person get too close to me.

"I could have been married years ago, but I had a commitment issue."

I doubt that a "commitment issue" is all Latifah has suffered. I have not made it a secret on this blog that I, too, am a victim of childhood sexual abuse. I know there are people out there (quite a few, actually), who wish I'd just shut up about the whole thing. In reality, I don't mention it that terribly often--it's just that most people don't care to hear about such matters EVER. I've suffered from many of the typical disorders that result from sexual abuse.

Seeing that this is MY blog, I can and will write about anything and everything I care to discuss. I commend Latifah, as a celebrity, for bringing attention to this horrific issue to the forefront.

Here are some staggering statistics:

The statistics are shocking
  • 1 in 4 girls is sexually abused before the age of 18. (96)
  • 1 in 6 boys is sexually abused before the age of 18. (96)
  • 1 in 5 children are solicited sexually while on the internet. (30, 87)
  • Nearly 70% of all reported sexual assaults (including assaults on adults) occur to children ages 17 and under. (76)
  • An estimated 39 million survivors of childhood sexual abuse exist in America today. (1)
Even within the walls of their own homes, children are at risk for sexual abuse
  • 30-40% of victims are abused by a family member. (2, 44, 76)
  • Another 50% are abused by someone outside of the family whom they know and trust.
  • Approximately 40% are abused by older or larger children whom they know. (1, 44)
  • Therefore, only 10% are abused by strangers.
Sexual abuse can occur at all ages, probably younger than you think
  • The median age for reported abuse is 9 years old. (64)
  • More than 20% of children are sexually abused before the age of 8. (76)
  • Nearly 50% of all victims of forcible sodomy, sexual assault with an object, and forcible fondling are children under 12. (74, 76)
Most children don't tell even if they have been asked
  • Evidence that a child has been sexually abused is not always obvious, and many children do not report that they have been abused.
  • Over 30% of victims never disclose the experience to ANYONE.
  • Young victims may not recognize their victimization as sexual abuse.
  • Almost 80% initially deny abuse or are tentative in disclosing. Of those who do disclose, approximately 75% disclose accidentally. Additionally, of those who do disclose, more than 20% eventually recant even though the abuse occurred.
  • Fabricated sexual abuse reports constitute only 1% to 4% of all reported cases. Of these reports, 75% are falsely reported by adults and 25% are reported by children. Children only fabricate ½% of the time.
Consequences of child sexual abuse begin affecting children and families immediately. They also affect society in innumerable and negative ways. These effects can continue throughout the life of the survivor so the impact on society for just one survivor continues over multiple decades. Try to imagine the impact of 39 million survivors.

Health and/or Behavioral Problems:
  • The way a victim's family responds to abuse plays an important role in how the incident affects the victim.
  • Sexually abused children who keep it a secret or who "tell" and are not believed are at greater risk than the general population for psychological, emotional, social, and physical problems often lasting into adulthood.
  • Children who have been victims of sexual abuse are more likely to experience physical health problems (e.g., headaches).
  • Victims of child sexual abuse report more symptoms of PTSD, more sadness, and more school problems than non-victims. (10, 16, 55, 72)
  • Victims of child sexual abuse are more likely to experience major depressive disorder as adults. (55, 72)
  • Young girls who are sexually abused are more likely to develop eating disorders as adolescents. (16, 40, 89)
  • Adolescent victims of violent crime have difficulty in the transition to adulthood, are more likely to suffer financial failure and physical injury, and are at risk to fail in other areas due to problem behaviors and outcomes of the victimization.
Drug and/or Alcohol Problems:
  • Victims of child sexual abuse report more substance abuse problems. 70-80% of sexual abuse survivors report excessive drug and alcohol use. (10, 16, 89)
  • Young girls who are sexually abused are 3 times more likely to develop psychiatric disorders or alcohol and drug abuse in adulthood, than girls who are not sexually abused. (16, 40, 89)
  • Among male survivors, more than 70% seek psychological treatment for issues such as substance abuse, suicidal thoughts and attempted suicide. Males who have been sexually abused are more likely to violently victimize others. (90)
Teenage Pregnancy and Promiscuity:
  • Children who have been victims of sexual abuse exhibit long-term and more frequent behavioral problems, particularly inappropriate sexual behaviors.
  • Women who report childhood rape are 3 times more likely to become pregnant before age 18.
  • An estimated 60% of teen first pregnancies are preceded by experiences of molestation, rape, or attempted rape. The average age of their offenders is 27 years.
  • Victims of child sexual abuse are more likely to be sexually promiscuous. (39, 59, 60, 70)
  • More than 75% of teenage prostitutes have been sexually abused.
  • Adolescents who suffer violent victimization are at risk for being victims or perpetrators of felony assault, domestic violence, and property offense as adults.
  • Nearly 50% of women in prison state that they were abused as children.
  • Over 75% of serial rapists report they were sexually abused as youngsters.
Most perpetrators don't molest only one child if they are not reported and stopped.
  • Nearly 70% of child sex offenders have between 1 and 9 victims; at least 20% have 10 to 40 victims. (23)
  • An average serial child molester may have as many as 400 victims in his lifetime.
Keep a close eye on the children you love.


Annette said...

It's a sick society we live in.

DivaJulia said...


Annette said...

It's true what you say about people not wanting to hear about it. I know i don't understand about sexual abuse and don't know how to react...hearing about it just makes me recoil. And i guess people don't get into conversations about it because the word "sexual" covers such a variety of nastiness when added to "abuse" that you don't want to open that can of worms. It's because it's something so horrible that i don't think people can or want to imagine the reality of it. My cousin has a close friend and his Dad abused his younger sister. Went to prison for 2 years and now he's out again (since last summer) and would you believe his wife has taken him back into their home! The daughter's moved out but i just DON'T GET IT???

DivaJulia said...

Honestly, Annette? Nothing surprises me anymore with regard to women staying with or taking these men into their homes. There's a horrible case here in the States about a mother who KNOWINGLY allowed a sex-offender into her home. Her little girl was found dead yesterday.

It's horrifying.

Thank you for leaving a heartfelt comment. xoxo ~j